Mistakes, The Great Teacher.

I just had a chat with my cousin brother from mum's side today, it was interesting because I felt I learn abit more about what I'm planning to delve into.

You see, I've had worked in jobs and I've figured that I don't like what I see in the working world.Majority of the cases people leave are, (YOU CAN'T DENY THIS!) supervisors mainly's or managers who you report directly too are the cause of people leaving.

I'm not the type who can't last in jobs, hell I've proven myself to be able to pull in major clientsand big sales, well not extremely big but my experience has thought me that I can be better off working for myself.

No, I'm not big-headed enough to think that I'm smart enough to open my own business.Which person did not ever think of working for themselves?

The current company I'm working with told us, we were thier business partners.We're working for ourselves. BUt in reality, we were working for them.

Many people are not happy with the way things are, so they put it into themselves to either work the hard way, or work for people.

I choose the hard way, my life's choices has always been the road less taken.Family and friends are not convince I could do it. But often I'd proof them wrong.I don't gloat over that fact, I just love learning the hard way, thats all.

I know they're mainly worried that I'll end up being a loser, relying on people.But after the short period of time I've worked, I know I can do it.

I have faith in myself, even if others don't. And I know I've people backing me up.I'm not the only one feeling this way, though.

But anyhow, heres a qoute from me I'd often say which I hope you readers will put it into your heads to follow someday when you want to stop someone from making the mistakes.Don't unless they asked for it, for when they ask it is only then they are really listening.

"I've learn one thng from taking care of people, no matter how much you want them not to make the same mistakes u did, sometimes its gotta be that way for them to learn. You gotta fall a few times to learn how to ride a bike.

Life's a learning process, don't stop people from making mistakes..cuz honestly how many people actually listen? until it happens to them, and u say I told u so .but they finally understood becoz they've 'felt' the consequences themselves."


The best thing to do for them is to have faith in thier choices, be there for them. Don't say I told you so as much as you'd like to, becos it already is stamped into thier heads when it goes wrong.

Thts it for now, wish me luck. Hopefully things will work out fine; if not then hey! at least I'VE TRIED!! We only live once, and I'll be glad to say that without any regret.

The silent abandon's

I was reading last week's Sunday Star, dated 26th July 2009 and tears were welling up in my eyes as I read the horrendous truth of our society I didn't, or rather refuse to believe that it exist.

How could people of this society be so cruel? In case you didn't read or didn't know, theres a high riseof cases of adult children dumping thier parents in the hospital and leaving fake addresses so that thier folks couldn't be returned to them.

Yes! I can hear your gasp of horror, I was horrified as well. Are we really that low? Parents are like the epitome of who we are, and what we are today as a human being. So who's fault is this?

Can we blame the parents? but then again, having a child is a learning process. No books can teach you the right things to do to bring up your child, ask any parents that. Even till death, they're still learning.

Most of the parents who were dump at the hospice were qouted as saying " I don't hate or blame my children, after all they have a life to lead!" What the hell were these children thinking??!!


I'm thankful and blessed as I took the time to reflect back on my upbringing. I was tought from a very young age to be family orientated. I learned from watching my mum, my dad's side is a lil' broken but yet they mantain the strong relationship and took iniciatives to keep in touch and be there for each other.

My partner unfortunately doesn't have that luxury of learning such things as his parent's side are broken. But it still doesn't stop him from being compassionate and take the iniaciatives to learn and he doesn't have the yearning to dump his dad at the old'folks let alone at the hospice.

Is today's children of age so cruel, cold and heartless? No matter how much money you don't have, does it justify them leaving the parents and not even a word to them? How is this possible? Can someone tell me?

My heart ache's reading the parent's plight. They don't mind being dump, but they want thier families to at least still visit them and care about them till thier time is up. Is that honestly all too much to ask?

Here's a few qoute's from them gotten from the newspaper ;

Uncle Chen, 74, (Not his real name) " As a parent, we never bear grudges against our children" wiping away tears.

Ng Ah Kow kept saying " wa ai tui chu, tapi bor lui" (Hokkien for " I want to go home but I have
no money")


Mahmud Rahmad, 58, " I'm sad about being left alone but i understand that my chilren have thier own lives to lead".


Wheel-chair bound Asmah Hassan, 80 "Three years ago ,I was kicked out from the house of one of my daughters in Kuala Lumpur after staying there for a month. " When I sought shelter in another daughter's house in Johor Baru, she did not allow me," said asmah who tapped rubber to bring up her children.


According to experts, among the excuses given by the children for dumping thier parents was the lack of space at home!


So, just a thought for y'all.