The silent abandon's

I was reading last week's Sunday Star, dated 26th July 2009 and tears were welling up in my eyes as I read the horrendous truth of our society I didn't, or rather refuse to believe that it exist.

How could people of this society be so cruel? In case you didn't read or didn't know, theres a high riseof cases of adult children dumping thier parents in the hospital and leaving fake addresses so that thier folks couldn't be returned to them.

Yes! I can hear your gasp of horror, I was horrified as well. Are we really that low? Parents are like the epitome of who we are, and what we are today as a human being. So who's fault is this?

Can we blame the parents? but then again, having a child is a learning process. No books can teach you the right things to do to bring up your child, ask any parents that. Even till death, they're still learning.

Most of the parents who were dump at the hospice were qouted as saying " I don't hate or blame my children, after all they have a life to lead!" What the hell were these children thinking??!!


I'm thankful and blessed as I took the time to reflect back on my upbringing. I was tought from a very young age to be family orientated. I learned from watching my mum, my dad's side is a lil' broken but yet they mantain the strong relationship and took iniciatives to keep in touch and be there for each other.

My partner unfortunately doesn't have that luxury of learning such things as his parent's side are broken. But it still doesn't stop him from being compassionate and take the iniaciatives to learn and he doesn't have the yearning to dump his dad at the old'folks let alone at the hospice.

Is today's children of age so cruel, cold and heartless? No matter how much money you don't have, does it justify them leaving the parents and not even a word to them? How is this possible? Can someone tell me?

My heart ache's reading the parent's plight. They don't mind being dump, but they want thier families to at least still visit them and care about them till thier time is up. Is that honestly all too much to ask?

Here's a few qoute's from them gotten from the newspaper ;

Uncle Chen, 74, (Not his real name) " As a parent, we never bear grudges against our children" wiping away tears.

Ng Ah Kow kept saying " wa ai tui chu, tapi bor lui" (Hokkien for " I want to go home but I have
no money")


Mahmud Rahmad, 58, " I'm sad about being left alone but i understand that my chilren have thier own lives to lead".


Wheel-chair bound Asmah Hassan, 80 "Three years ago ,I was kicked out from the house of one of my daughters in Kuala Lumpur after staying there for a month. " When I sought shelter in another daughter's house in Johor Baru, she did not allow me," said asmah who tapped rubber to bring up her children.


According to experts, among the excuses given by the children for dumping thier parents was the lack of space at home!


So, just a thought for y'all.